Eat with Family.

I recently saw a video of British families. The adults and the children were separated and asked the same question.  If you could have dinner with any one who would it be with, dead or alive.   Well the answers varied in a large way of course for the adults. Paul Hogan, Jimmy Hendrix, to Bob Hope. There were 6 families on the video.  Then the kids were brought out. The adults were able to see the children’s answer but they were not out there with them.  As far as I know they never saw the adult answers. Some said right off that they wanted to eat with mom and dad. Those that hesitated and thought for several seconds said mom and dad. Each parent was shocked.  Some cried, others just smiled real big.

I was brought up in a large family. 6 kids. 5 were at the dinner table for many years. My oldest sister was married by the time my little brother was born. Supper time was the big meal for us.  My mother did most of the cooking but my sisters began helping at a young age. We never had a large table so with the parents and kids at the table it was a squeeze. I loved it. I don’t remember any one time or what we always talked about but it was a time of being one and a time we knew we were loved. Fried chicken, hamburger gravy, stew, and chili. It was all good.I don’t know when it happened but I know it was after my sisters were married and my oldest brother was out of the house, but we soon seemed to have more and more suppers in front of the tv.  I don’t remember complaining about but I do know that I missed those time around the table. Did I complain, no, so I have no excuse.

I don’t know if families stop to have suppers around the table now or not.  I am sure it does happen but families are so busy now that I wonder if they realize what they are missing.  They have many reasons and none of them are bad but I don’t think the parents know what is being missed. Do you have to have your 5 year old in kiddie soccer, or  T ball.  What I hear a lot is every child does it. But I don’t think the kids care. The parents do it for 2 main reasons. They want a child to get an early push in sports so they will be good some day. Others do it because their friends do it.  Believe me mom and dad your child wants to be with you. If this sounds like I am against sports for children it truly isn’t. When the child is old enough to know where all the bases are and are more interested in playing ball than picking flowers or butterflies then go ahead. Also when games and practice gets in the way of eating meals together then you had better make sure your children get parents time. And that isn’t in left field for 5 innings.

Now I am not getting on any ones case. I will not ask whether or not you eat supper with your children. It isn’t my business. But your children will be glad when you have those special meals together even if they don’t know it.  Well I have said my peace. Send a comment if you want, I always welcome them.

Ben C.


Mish Mash

Well it is past April 15. I hope every one got their taxes done and have lots of refund to use.  I did get some back but I used it already. Easy come easy go.

Today is Sunday the 17th of April. The middle of the month and the day I try to write this commentary to myself. You would think it would be easy but this isn’t a diary but a note to myself to what I think is important. Not every month do I expect parables like the Gray Mouse That Couldn’t. I am still sharing that and if you haven’t read it please do. It is copied 3 times but that was not on purpose.  We had a mish mash at church today also. Several people spoke. It was all good and worthwhile. In fact one or two will have to finish next week or soon there after. I got to say goodbye to my friend Ryan Helmer. He is moving to Southern California to be near his girl friend.  If that isn’t love nothing is. He and his brother Alan are two of my favorites.

April is also the month Britain’s Got Talent is happening on youtube. I have said so in the past but I like it more than America’s Got Talent because the US show the judges try to make themselves the stars.  Now and again the judges in Britain will do something stupid but they rarely distract from the show.  I haven’t seen much of this years acts but the 3 I have seen were quite good.They make me happy and blesses me a lot more than I even thought it ever would.

April is the start of Baseball, end of Basketball,  The Masters Golf tournament, as well as the beginning of the Hockey play offs. I don’t do the NBA anymore so they don’t count. It also means the Naturals are back in Springdale.  I haven’t seen a game yet but they seem to be struggling again. Doesn’t matter, I will go any how. I will take Hannah, my daughter, to a game this month and will go on my birthday and I hope July 4th.

I really don’t know how to put this into words. I am a very emotional person. I laugh and cry very easily.  It used to bother me, a lot, but God has said I am not a mistake, any of me. Lately I have been listening to music, all kinds, and I just well up in tears. Not sad tears but I am special to God tears.  I try to praise Him and thank Him for where I am and who I am. I have been getting that way a lot lately. Some it is just the music it self. Strong but yet sentimental tunes. But still they are not Christian by a long ways. I am so glad my mother gave the appreciation for music. My family is not talented for the most part in the music areas.  Tim does sing his rock and roll and play a mean guitar. Sue has a great voice. I have no idea about Max or Tom. Janice and I are not singers and I am the worst.  I play a mean CD or Pandora and that is about it. But all my childhood I was surrounded by music.  My mother had a beautiful voice. I grew up with Roy Rogers old musicals as well as the 30s and 40s musicals of Bing Crosby and Glenn Miller .  A wide variety and that is what I still listen to.  I am not into rock today.  I lost that ear in the 90s but every once in a while there will be something I like.  Movie themes of today and yester years I play a lot also. From Henry Mancini to John Williams..

Time to quit. My fingers are aching. Maybe more later.  Ben C.  Feel free to comment.